This page is about the 'Other Side of Adoption' -- which means, this page is full of links to other sites which feature those who have been lied to, hurt by the system, deceived, forced into the adoption choice, or those who have had their adoptions closed. As the owner/creator of this website, I felt it was necessary to not only include the more postive sides/stories of adoption, but also the more negative. As with any issue, there are always two sides: both sides must be heard if we are to move forward, and call ourselves an educated and compassionate people.

CUB

CUB is a national organization serving those touched by adoption and others who are concerned about adoption issues.

Things I Wish I Would Have Known

The quick summary is this: Adoption might well be the best option for you and your child, but in order for you to have peace, it needs to be a well-considered decision, made at least twice (once before the birth, and again after the birth). Before you make any commitments, you need to hear all sides...the negative as well as the positive.

A Birthmother's View on Adoption

An amazing and insightful article by Firstmother, Heather Lowe.

Bastard Nation

Bastard Nation advocates for the civil and human rights of adult citizens who were adopted as children.

A Natural Mother's Lament

A poem.

Counting to Ten

Adoption information website.

The Adoption Option

A Firstmother's story.

The Birth Psychology

Many informative articles on Newborn Adoption: The Lifelong Psychological Matrix - Column Editor, Marcy L. Axness

The Primal Wound

The Effects of Separation from the Birthmother on Adopted Children.